Recently MyDBTlife had our first ever video chat peer support meeting! In this case our smaller turnout worked to our advantage with the general consensus being that it is beneficial to hear and/or see other peers who struggle with the same shared challenges: to hear the sincerity in their voice; to know that their truth strikes a chord in your own heart in a way that text misses entirely; to see in another's eyes the joy of successes shared.
As always, the simple joy of finding out that you are not alone, of naming or labeling the thing that holds you back and taking some defined action to re-balance the scales held our tiny group in fascination.
We talked about how intensely we feel, and how our emotions vacillate from moment to moment based on our reaction to stimuli. We talked about shame and justification, and some of the skills used to help us keep on track.
There is no fear of being exposed in a group where you share the same willingness to change. Also knowing that what happens in the group stays in the group and how complete confidentiality is always observed serves to help people feel more comfortable as well.
And for those doing their homework
(which is to just choose one skill having to do with
emotional regulation and keep track of it this week)
emotion charts and a daily record.