Tuesday, October 27, 2015

Helping Ourselves

I was recently contacted by a fellow-fighter, Michelle Morgan. She too has a history of mental illness that was sucking the life out of her. Our journey's share quite a few of the very familiar milestones that one will see when they claw their way back to a life worth living. But this isn't about her story of survival, or my story of survival... 


Tuesday, June 30, 2015

SKILL: Breaking it down

Life can be overwhelming. Moments pile upon one another and before you know it, you can feel as though you are buried so far beneath the surface that happiness is no longer near enough to you to touch. When mental illness is added to the mix it can be downright debilitating. Paralyzing in fact. What to do?

Wednesday, June 10, 2015

What does the summer bring? Group changes!

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With Summer coming, Changes are coming...Groups will be held on Tuesday @ 1 pm Pacific instead of Wednesday's. Saturday's group will remain the same! Many thanks to Jeanne, for moderating Saturday's group - and many, many thanks to our wonderful group members that have made this adventure work! 

Wednesday, April 15, 2015

Encouragement from One Another

I wanted to share this post with everyone! Recently one of our group members expressed her feelings of discouragement. She made the point that following through on DBT skills feels, at times, like the skills set just "doesn't work" or that, "it's never going to get better" - and another group member had this to share:

Saturday, April 4, 2015

A celebration of acceptance.

A common thread in our group discussions have been around the topic of Acceptance, so I have been pouring over DBT skills on the subject, a refresher course of sorts. I have also been working on a specific, personal goal: body image and acceptance.

Friday, April 3, 2015

A wise mind: A.C.C.E.P.T.S.

Acceptance is a skill all to itself and the acronym A.C.C.E.P.T.S. is a specific skills set in the Distress Tolerance module of the DBT program, but I blur the lines a bit on these skills because I truly feel they go hand-in-hand in making progress towards a mentally healthful life.

Tuesday, March 31, 2015

Communication and finding... peace, not Nemo.

I was watching Finding Nemo with two of my children on Sunday morning. We watched it with a different intent than we have in the past. You see, my youngest children are 9 and 11, so they are well beyond the years that would "oh" and "ah" over the movie. However, since it is a pretty good flick, we enjoyed watching it from the standpoint of, "Oh yea, remember this scene!" or, "I love this next scene!"

When Marlin started to tell his story of traversing the Big Blue in search of Nemo and the story was told over and over until it finally reached Nemo, recall two lobsters were telling it and the one said regarding the fish Marlin and Dory had to fight off when the mask fell deep into the trench:
"It was wicked dark down there..."
- it made something jingle in my head in relation to mental health.

Before you ask, yes, this is why I call this site My DBT Life, because I find these skills need to be embedded everywhere in your life in order for effective, mentally healthful living to be forth coming - even in a children's animated movies! :)

So, what was it about this scene?

Saturday, March 21, 2015

Emotion Myths

This last Wednesday, in group, we discussed some emotion myths that tend to derail us. Just to name a few:

I should be able to control my emotions.
Negative feelings are bad and destructive.
Emotions can just happen for no reason.

Saturday, March 14, 2015

SKILL: Letting go

The follow-up to our theme during groups, of Emotion Regulation, is the skill of letting go. What is involved in this skill? How can it be useful and does letting go mean you are throwing in the proverbial towel?

Thursday, March 12, 2015

The Sound of Progress

Recently MyDBTlife had our first ever video chat peer support meeting! In this case our smaller turnout worked to our advantage with the general consensus being that it is beneficial to hear and/or see other peers who struggle with the same shared challenges: to hear the sincerity in their voice; to know that their truth strikes a chord in your own heart in a way that text misses entirely; to see in another's eyes the joy of successes shared.

Tuesday, March 10, 2015


I just received a message from a My DBT Life member and this member has been hospitalized again. I just wanted to reach out and remind everyone who is fighting through, progress takes time and that is OK. Some things take longer than others. There is no set time-table on recovery. Hang-in there, take a deep breath and enjoy the journey! 

Monday, March 9, 2015

Weekly Groups March 11th and 14th, 2015

We will continue to develop the subject of Emotion Regulation. Gaining more depth of understanding of the use of Wise Mind and Opposite Action skill-set.

Thursday, March 5, 2015

Benefits of Regulating Emotions

I know, I know, what does that silly dress have to do with Emotions? That is a great question! Well, simply put, the point that came out about "The Dress that Broke the Internet" all boiled down to perception, did it not? While one person saw the picture as White and Gold others saw it as Blue and Black. This was because of the way our brains have been trained to interpret the colors, in this case in an over-exposed picture. 

Well, emotions are that way too. Our experiences in life have trained our brains to interpret these emotions a certain way. They mean a certain thing. It has been perfectly caused. 

Sunday, March 1, 2015

Are you curious about Emotion Regulation?

Group Topic for Week of March 4th & 7th:

What are some of the components of Emotion Regulation?
What are the benefits of regulating your emotions?
How can you effectively regulate your emotions, even if the distressing event hasn't changed?

Sunday, February 15, 2015

Current Events

My DBT Life has seen some ups and downs over the years. Success and less-than success. It has been difficult to carry on blogging regularly because of a lack of response. What I have found is that I have a lot of silent interest. So, for the benefit of those, I will continue to make an effort to make this more regular.