Wednesday, October 29, 2014

A wild summer...

Now Fall is in full swing. This is a picture from my porch, I simply love the Fall colors! My last post was from July and I am very sorry about how long it has been since I have made a new one. I had a crazy summer. We had family relocate here from several hours away and they stayed with us. It was wonderfully cramped and our dear family had the brunt of it. However, they are settled now and life seems to falling into place at every turn. 

While my posts have been inconsistent, group meetings have not been...

Friday, July 11, 2014

Questions from Readers: CBT & Mindfulness

Question: Can CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) and Mindfulness work together? Or do their methods oppose one another?

Answer (From Peer-Support Group Member) :

Thursday, June 5, 2014

Group: Goal Setting

OK, so you committed to change. You have identified what behaviors are ineffective to a fulfilling life. You are ready to make the needed changes... the only thing standing in your way now is how to stay the course? The mountain seems so big, the climbing seems too difficult. How do you get motivated and stay motivated?

Can you relate to this? Many can. In fact, when learning anything new it can feel overwhelming at times, but there is something about learning skills to better your mental soul that seems to take on extra weight. It can feel even bigger and even further from reality. Have no fear, you are not alone and there are methods to overcoming those very natural feelings.

Tuesday, May 13, 2014

Group topics

We had a great group on last Sunday! A great big thanks to everyone who attended and to those who presented material.

What we would really like to do is open this post up to questions on topics, or suggested topics to be covered during groups. As of today, the next groups platform is open, so let's hear from readers about what they would like to know more about. My DBT Life has quite a lot of resources available, so the topics are not that limited. Whether it be a person that is part of a support system wanting to know how they can do their job more effectively, or a consumer wanting to understand a particular skill better or how that skill may look in real life... Please post your thoughts or questions.

Currently, we are collaborating with readers and from those groups, posts will be generated for the blog so that those who could not attend can benefit from the material presented.

Have a great day everyone!


Saturday, May 10, 2014

Radical Acceptance - Group: 5-11-14

For more information on Radical Acceptance you can search that term on this blog, or feel free to read this post - it was one that had some good examples for readers to think on. 

Anyone interested in group on Sunday, May 11, 2014 @ 5 p.m. Pacific Time please email me and I can add your Gmail to the Google Hangout. 
Hope to see everyone there!


Wednesday, May 7, 2014

What makes you happy?

I know it sounds silly, but when I am really in the muck of things and I see the sun peering through what feels to be the murkiness of any given day, it makes me happy. Having something to look forward to is such a great way to combat the deafening crush of depression. The trick is, if the something you look forward is spectacular - all the time, you run the risk of having a great big let down afterwards. 

I am not implying not to have great big plans, of course, by all means enjoy what you are able to in life, what I am referring to is something to look forward to by way of a skill, should be small and calculable. Something you can use repeatedly and have the ability to measure it's effectiveness. 

Friday, May 2, 2014


Tomorrow will be 7 weeks post ankle fracture. I have finally been able to remove my plaster cast and now have a removable cast, or a "walking cast", which is ironic for me because I still cannot walk.

I am told I have 6 more weeks to go before I can bear weight. I have used distraction, helping others, and environmental changes in order to not go out of my mind being stuck in a wheelchair incapable of doing most regular things that we tend to take for granted. Boy, do I have a whole new appreciation for persons who are disabled!

Please understand, I am not complaining because I fully understand that there are many, many others out there that are suffering way worse than my puny little world of wheelchair confinement. Like my brother-in-law, recently lost his right hand in a working accident. Very tragic and I need to remember, no matter how freaked out I get thinking in advance at going another 6 weeks without walking that it could be worse...I could be without my limb and have no hope of walking again.

You see, my logic mind screams these reminders at me hourly. However, my emotion mind is screaming equally loud things that drag me down, things that make me feel trapped and full of anxiety. I go in circles. My two sides are tugging and pulling at one another.

Sunday, April 27, 2014

Collaboration of Skills

Peer support is all about helping each other out with each of our own skills, experience, and resources. Mental Health Awareness is a giant and to tackle it successfully, we need to all pitch in. 

As an announcement, please everyone, welcome someone that I believe will be a positive contribution to this site and our cause. 

Saturday, March 29, 2014

Helping Others

I have been doing some internet research regarding some tricks of the trade to get through being wheelchair bound for weeks, until I can start to bear weight on this silly ankle, or at least get around on a knee scooter. Which by the way is a great invention, but the fine print is that you cannot use one of those until a certain healing point. Like, you cannot be having side-effects due to pain meds in the form of dizziness, or shakiness. You'll fall flat off that little scooter and be in a world of hurt. So depending on your break and what measures they need to take to put you back together again, your resources can be extremely limited.

During my internet time, I was visiting my Google+ page, and a poster there had this to share with everyone...

Wednesday, March 26, 2014


Caramel yearning for the outdoors!

I want to take a moment and discuss the skill of distraction.

How do you know when you should use the distraction skill?

What are the benefits of distraction?

What are some good ideas to use as distraction?

When has distraction moved into the space of avoidance?

These are excellent questions that I have heard and at times asked myself.

Tuesday, March 25, 2014

Overcoming obstacles

My youngest monkeys

OK, so a week ago this past Saturday I broke my ankle in two places and damaged the ligament. Last Wednesday I went in for surgery to have the bones set, and held with pins and plates, and have the ligament re-positioned and held by pins.


I'm not gonna lie, it was painful, and if I am not careful about my pain meds routine, it still will be painful!

Next week I get my cast on. Starting from that point, I will be able to do more things as it relates to getting around. As it is now, I have to keep on a strict regimen of elevating and icing the ankle. Obviously, I cannot be out of bed for very long periods of time and bearing weight on the injury is an absolute no-no for 3 months. Sounds wonderful doesn't it?

Well, since this is an unexpected turn of events that has the potential to throw me in a tail-spin on a mental health level, it is my cue to set up antecedents to prevent a melt down. I have spoken quite a bit about responsibilities and our mental illness and I wanted to take this opportunity to use this experience as a way to see responsibility in action. Hopefully, this idea of mine will not only help keep me mentally healthy, but it will help my peers who struggle with similar situations to see that no one is perfect, we all break down at times and we all can be successful in living a life over and above the mental illness.

My plan...

Friday, March 14, 2014

Winter is on its way out!

Greetings, one and all! Whoa! I need to thank those that stick around with me through the winters. It has been sunny and beautiful in my neck of the woods for the last three days now and I am feeling the daze of the dark and gloomy winter melting off.

We will resume Sunday chats for all that are interested this Sunday, March 16th, 2014 @ 5:00 p.m. Pacific Time. 


Monday, January 13, 2014

The Healing Power of...

There is a lot of value in having a sense of humor and many of you will be amazed at how effective of a tool it is. Not to say that one should allow themselves to stray into the neighborhood of humor's ugly cousin, sarcasm. Certainly be aware of that!

When I went looking for my pic for this post, I typed "Humor" into the Google Image box and what came up was down-right X-rated, so I typed, "Clean Humor" and that dude in a tub showed up, I chuckled to myself at the literalness of the search results and decided it had to be included in my post.

I am going to be quick with this post and simply challenge everyone to search out some humor. Maybe on social media, or watch a comedy, or in some way try and find some humor in what your life has amounted to. You won't be sorry!

Enjoy! and have a great day :)

~ Finally - anyone interested in meeting in a chat group this week, please email me.


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