OK, so it is the two combined, certainly.
Friday, April 29, 2011
Tuesday, April 26, 2011
What it is to be me.
I have found myself in a vicious cycle. I get the energy to work hard at my current mountain. I go for it with a massive amount of gusto. Then...
Not so much.
I engage in behavior that undermines my efforts. The behavior isn't "that bad". I mean it isn't like it falls into the traditional self-harm categories. Although, if I were being honest with myself it truly is self-harm because it does one of two things, A) in the long term it is harmful for me and B) it manifests and breeds behavior that over time is directly harmful to myself.
So what do I do about it? I have been chasing my own tail trying to change it. Honestly, I still don't have the solution formulated fully. It all is still a bit fuzzy.
Let me outline some of the finer details in this case, so this can all make a bit more sense:
Monday, April 25, 2011
Stop. Breath. Reflect. Choose.
This skill is quite handy. It is simple, straight forward and easy to remember. It can be jotted down on a note-card or post-it and carried with you.
It is useful in a variety of settings, perhaps your stress level has reached a peek and you are on the border of crying, yelling, screaming, or any number of 'bad' behaviors. But....(there is always a but) you still have several items on your to-do list.
You can either plug your way through and hope that you don't do something you'll regret later or you can: Stop, Breath, Reflect, and Choose.
Monday, April 11, 2011
Week, month, or however long it takes me to get to another skill! Ha! I crack myself up. OK, so I am really trying to get back into the swing of things.
Start with Structure...Rely on Routine.
I understand how critical that is. So, onward and upward.
How many perfectionists are there out there?
I suspect many, many, many of you have this trait. It sort of walks hand-in-hand with mental illness in a lot of ways. In a world of so many uncertainties and triggers, in a mind that is so out of control we grasp at any bit of control we imagine we have. However, as there are many of us out there, this Lane is still quite empty because of one fundamental truth...no one is perfect.
Wednesday, April 6, 2011
Did you notice something? Most bloggers take advantage of Google ads. This isn't a surprise. It makes sense really, especially when your blog or website is for a purpose that isn't making money anywhere else and you spend the kind of time on it as if it were a part-time job. No big deal right?
Or maybe it is a big deal...
at 11:35 AM